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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

A Change of Pace + A Change of Place = A Change of Perspective

Have you ever confronted the pace in which you have been living?  Consider the following:
— Social media and the pace of life today make it easy to be distracted from our what our real priorities should be.
— Many of us need to get back into important conversations that matter, ones that make a difference in our lives.
— If we don’t set specific goals, in all our life dimensions, and track our progress, we are going to end up someplace we don’t want to be.
— If we don’t set boundaries and rules, we are going to end up spending energy that does not move us in the direction of our goals.
— Consider this quote from Mark Batterson, “A change of pace + a change of place = a change of perspective.”
— By periodically getting away to a new place with a new pace, we have the opportunity to gain a new perspective.
— New perspectives can be life transforming!
When was the last time you experienced a positive, lasting, life transformation?  Perhaps it's time.  Time to get away to a new place, to live life at a different pace - even if only for a little while - to plan for a new direction.  Let the transformation begin!
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Friday, September 9, 2016

Training Camp - Part 3

In the words of Jesus...

“No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them, and I will raise them up at the last day. It is written in the Prophets: ‘They will all be taught by God.’ Everyone who has heard the Father and learned from him comes to me.”
‭‭John‬ ‭6:44-45‬ ‭

God draws people into Himself.

Hope.  We all need it.  We all search for it.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭10:23-25‬

We (Christians) are fulfilling a biblical command God has given us when we go to church: to not abandon the gathering together as saints to worship Him.  Church should be a place of transformational hope.

Every church starts out intending to point people toward Jesus.  Not to construct barriers between us and God.  But for many, that's what happened!

In the words of Casting Crowns:

Jesus Friend of sinners we have strayed so far away.  We cut down people in your name but the sword was never ours to swing.  Jesus friend of sinners the truth's become so hard to see.  The world is on their way to You but they're tripping over me Always looking around but never looking up I'm so double minded.  A plank eyed saint with dirty hands and a heart divided.

Oh Jesus friend of sinners.  Open our eyes to the world at the end of our pointing fingers.  Let our hearts be led by mercy.  Help us reach with open hearts and open doors.  Oh Jesus friend of sinners break our hearts for what breaks yours.

For many, church turns people away.

Grace Community Value #5:  Excellent Environments - we strive to remove all the obstacles that might create barriers to new people seeing Jesus in the existing people in the church.

We (at Grace) use things in the culture to point people to Jesus.  We are never going to change or dilute the truth of Scriptures, but we will constantly seek better ways to point people to Jesus.

We will do anything short of sin to reach people with the truth of Jesus.  The message will always be the same, but the methods will constantly be changing.  There are no sacred cows when reaching people for Jesus.  We shoot them.

Our job as a church is to take out tradition, knock down the barriers, and get out of the way so people can meet and grow closer to Jesus.

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Sunday, September 4, 2016

Training Camp: Part 2

Direction, not intention determines destination.

Value #2:  Salvation is by grace alone, through Christ alone.

Jesus is the only way for people to be brought into a right relationship with God.

“One day Peter and John were going up to the temple at the time of prayer—at three in the afternoon. Now a man who was lame from birth was being carried to the temple gate called Beautiful, where he was put every day to beg from those going into the temple courts. When he saw Peter and John about to enter, he asked them for money. Peter looked straight at him, as did John. Then Peter said, “Look at us!” So the man gave them his attention, expecting to get something from them. Then Peter said, “Silver or gold I do not have, but what I do have I give you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.” Taking him by the right hand, he helped him up, and instantly the man’s feet and ankles became strong. He jumped to his feet and began to walk. Then he went with them into the temple courts, walking and jumping, and praising God. When all the people saw him walking and praising God, they recognized him as the same man who used to sit begging at the temple gate called Beautiful, and they were filled with wonder and amazement at what had happened to him.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭3:1-10‬ ‭

Now Peter has everyone's attention and he does what every good preacher does when he has the attention of a crowd - he preaches a message!

“While the man held on to Peter and John, all the people were astonished and came running to them in the place called Solomon’s Colonnade. When Peter saw this, he said to them: “Fellow Israelites, why does this surprise you? Why do you stare at us as if by our own power or godliness we had made this man walk? The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, the God of our fathers, has glorified his servant Jesus. You handed him over to be killed, and you disowned him before Pilate, though he had decided to let him go. You disowned the Holy and Righteous One and asked that a murderer be released to you. You killed the author of life, but God raised him from the dead. We are witnesses of this. By faith in the name of Jesus, this man whom you see and know was made strong. It is Jesus’ name and the faith that comes through him that has completely healed him, as you can all see.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭3:11-16‬ ‭

Horrible news:  "You killed the author of life."  This has to be one of the worst things a person could ever have done.

Soft words make hard hearts.  Hard words make soft hearts.

““Now, fellow Israelites, I know that you acted in ignorance, as did your leaders. But this is how God fulfilled what he had foretold through all the prophets, saying that his Messiah would suffer. Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord, and that he may send the Messiah, who has been appointed for you—even Jesus. Heaven must receive him until the time comes for God to restore everything, as he promised long ago through his holy prophets.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭3:17-21‬ ‭

Good news:  Your sins are forgiven if you repent.  God wants to bring you rest and refreshment.

One day a week - rest and know that you are not in control.  God is.  He will take care of you.  Put the work down.

But in the middle of his message, he gets interrupted.....

“The priests and the captain of the temple guard and the Sadducees came up to Peter and John while they were speaking to the people. They were greatly disturbed because the apostles were teaching the people, proclaiming in Jesus the resurrection of the dead. They seized Peter and John and, because it was evening, they put them in jail until the next day. But many who heard the message believed; so the number of men who believed grew to about five thousand.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:1-4‬

Now Peter, who has a history of caving in and backing down, says.....

“The next day the rulers, the elders and the teachers of the law met in Jerusalem. Annas the high priest was there, and so were Caiaphas, John, Alexander and others of the high priest’s family. They had Peter and John brought before them and began to question them: “By what power or what name did you do this?” Then Peter, filled with the Holy Spirit, said to them: “Rulers and elders of the people! If we are being called to account today for an act of kindness shown to a man who was lame and are being asked how he was healed, then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:5-10‬ ‭

Whoa - new boldness.  While is this guy and where does this courage come from.  But that is not enough...

“Jesus is “ ‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.””
‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:11-12‬ ‭

Peter was as offensive and politically incorrect as you could possibly be at that time!

Not everyone can accept Jesus.  He is a stumbling block to many.....

“He will be a holy place; for both Israel and Judah he will be a stone that causes people to stumble and a rock that makes them fall. And for the people of Jerusalem he will be a trap and a snare.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭8:14‬ ‭

At Grace, you can belong before you believe.  But you will know what we believe, because we will never hide it and we will never sugar coat it.

“Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
‭‭John‬ ‭14:6‬

Now that statement seems so offensive and so unloving, so politically incorrect and so arrogant.....  Unless it's true!

“When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. But since they could see the man who had been healed standing there with them, there was nothing they could say. So they ordered them to withdraw from the Sanhedrin and then conferred together. “What are we going to do with these men?” they asked. “Everyone living in Jerusalem knows they have performed a notable sign, and we cannot deny it. But to stop this thing from spreading any further among the people, we must warn them to speak no longer to anyone in this name.” Then they called them in again and commanded them not to speak or teach at all in the name of Jesus. But Peter and John replied, “Which is right in God’s eyes: to listen to you, or to him? You be the judges! As for us, we cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard.””
‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:13-20‬ ‭

If the cornerstone of your home is not built on the rock of Jesus, it will crash.  Storms will hit you and your family - no doubt about it.

Following Jesus is not a path to buried treasure (health, wealth, and good times),  Jesus IS the buried treasure!

If your identity is in Christ, you are not guaranteed to have smooth sailing, but you ARE guaranteed to get through the storms!  We are human BEINGS designed in the image of Christ, not human DOINGS.

If your cornerstone is in your job or your wealth, your house will crash!

Do you believe the Jesus is the only way?  Do you believe that Jesus is your way?

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Monday, August 15, 2016


Please note, there is a minor error in the address for tonight's meeting! The meeting will take place at the same street address, but in Auburn Hills, Michigan.....
Help Your Teen Identify their Life Calling, Career, & College

Monday, August 15th at 7:00pm
Homeschool Connections Office, 2685 Lapeer Rd. Suite #105
Lake Orion, Michigan 48326
(It's acress Zelma Street from Hoops Bar & Grill. Please park in their lot)

Tuesday, August 16th at 7:00pm
Five Points Church
3411 Walton Blvd.
Auburn Hills, MI  48326

This is a FREE
informational session

Join us for this FREE informational Session

Please use the LINK below to RSVP!!

Help Your Teen Identify Their Life Calling, Career, & College

presented by Larry Bates & Curtis Songer of Truth@Life Transformation Coaching & Consulting

These sessions are of tremendous value in helping your teen:
            Identify their life purpose
            See how that maps to their career calling
            Improve their confidence and self-esteem,
            And help them become better life-long decision makers. 

Parents who have attended these sessions say the program has saved them over $30,000 per child in tuition!  Come and see how.

This information session is Ideal for student finishing 8th grade through college.

Invite anyone you may know who may be one of the following situations:

1.  You have many talents & are not sure what to do with them. 
2.  You are stressed about feeling a lack of direction and purpose. 
3.  School aptitude test suggests you to go into a career that does not interest you.
4.  You are headed to college in the next year, but don't know what to major in.
5.  You are already at college and are considering changing your major.
6.  You have graduated from college and think you may have made a mistake.
7.  You are just starting out and need guidance in getting started in your career. 

Many Homeschool Connections families have found Mr. Songer's program very helpful for their students. He understands and works with many homeschooling teens as well as teens from public and private schools. He is also a professor at a Christian College in Pennsylvania and understands the college acceptance process very well. Through Truth@ Life, he has helped over 100 students determine their degree, choose their college and find their life pathway.

Curtis and Larry also help adults who are contemplating their Life Calling and Purpose so feel free to come and join us for your own information as well! 

Call or email Mr. Songer for more information:

Presented by
Curtis Songer
Principal, Truth@Life
Transformation Coaching & Consulting

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Dream BIG Dreams

Successful people dream BIG dreams...in a pragmatic way. For more truth about life, see... http://www.truthatlife.com/

Monday, August 8, 2016

Training Camp (part 1)

It's that time again, time for football!  Can I get an amen?  AMEN!!!

The minute you step onto the field, your teammates know if you are ready, if you went to training camp!  You have to go to training in order to be prepared.  You have to be prepared in order to win.

Have you been winning or have you been losing?  Maybe your life has been tough.  Maybe you lost last season.  Maybe you don't want next season to look like the last season.  For that to come true, you have to go to training camp!

To go to training camp, you first have to be united with Christ.  You have to believe in Him as your Savior.

“And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭2:22‬ ‭

We are not fighting against each other - certainly not against your own team mates.

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6:10-13‬ ‭

You have to go to training camp.

“Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6:14-17‬ ‭

To have a helmet of salvation means you have to first have a relationship with God.

To take up the shield of faith, you have to believe the Bible is God's Word.  And you have to spend time in the Word.  Study it, memorize it, believe it, and apply it.

At Grace, we believe in and proclaim God's Word - no matter what!  We are under the authority of the truth of God's Word.

When you out you life under the authority of God's Word and practice it's principles, you will live a better life - not an easier life - a better life.

It makes you a better spouse, parent, friend, employee, neighbor, citizen, healthier, & humble.  It makes me better physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Follow Jesus + Read the Bible = Better Life

The Bible is a place, a foundation, to stand on.  It protects us and shelters us.  The question is not IF you will have hard times.  The question is what will you do WHEN you have hard times?

To make next season better than last season, you have to make the Bible part of your everyday life, You have to go to training camp!

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Sunday, August 7, 2016

How to Get It All

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Matthew 6:33
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“I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”
Romans 8:18
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Thursday, August 4, 2016

Who's your Daddy? (part 2)

Who's your daddy?  If it is God, then you have the same power within you that raised Jesus from the dead!

“You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.”
‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:4‬ ‭

What is the proof that you are a child of God and are saved?

“For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live. For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:13-14‬ ‭

The proof is that you life is changing. You are looking more like your daddy - God - on a daily basis.

Like father, like son.
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
A chip off the old block.

If you are not becoming more like Jesus, you should be changing.  I didn't say you have stopped sinning.  I said you be in the process of changing.

“What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭6:1-2‬ ‭

The following passage should either scare the crap out of you or give you a great feeling of relief:

““Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:21-23‬ ‭

Which is it for you - fear or relief?  Have you trifled to live like Him this week?  When you failed, did you feel horribly, confess your failure, and try to change?  Did you talk to Him this morning?  Did you listen to what He said?

Does any of that describe you?
Since you became a Christian, has your life changed?  How has it changed?
Is the way you love your wife and kids, would you say that you are being led by the Spirit of Christ?
Is the way you honor and respect your husband, would you say that you are being led by the Spirit of God?
Is the way that you act at work, would you say that you are being led by the Spirit of Christ?
Is the way you respond to social media, would you say that you are being led by the Spirit of Christ?
Are the things you do in private,  would you say that you are being led by the Spirit of Christ?
Are you making progress?
Do you really have a relationship with God?
Who's your daddy?

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