Helpful Relationships

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Proverbs 27:6 We all need to develop certain relationships that are for growth, development, and blessing. Surround yourself with people that have complementary gifts, different driver/comfort zones, different thinking wavelengths, and listen to their wise counsel. Keep in mind the need for complimentary gifting in this “inner circle”. There are many different kinds of mentors. Identify your historical mentors (those who have gone before you, died, documented their learning’s) and study them. Identify your living mentors (those who are still alive) and spend time with them – share with them and listen. Identify your spiritual mentors (those who are concerned primarily about your spiritual life and transformation). Be transparent with them and be held accountable. Have a Life Plan mentor (who is not your spouse – see the book for many reasons why). They will help you to: Be accountable and to keep your promises to yourself. Think things through. Encourage you when you need encouragement. Keep your deepest secrets in confidence. Help you review your Life Plan periodically and offer suggestions/counsel. Qualifications for a good Life Plan partner: Practicing Christian. Close friend of the same sex. Someone who is loved and appreciated by your other family members. A secure, confident, person of wisdom. Someone who will tell you what you need to be told. Someone who can be a prayer partner. Someone who will always be there for you. You should never feel as if you are “imposing” on him by calling him. Someone who can physically get together with you at least once or twice a year. Keep in mind the need for complimentary gifting in this “inner circle”. Do you have an inner circle of friends? Friends who will speak the truth to you in love, even if it hurts? Friends who will encourage you? Friends who are mentors and will invest in your life? Truth@Life can help you, regardless of your location. Call 248-396-6255 or email me at curtis.songer@gmail.com for a free consultation. If you receive value from these blogs, please consider donating to keep this blog site up and running. This ministry cannot continue without the generous donations of its readers. Just click on the "Donate" button in the upper right. For more info on help I can provide check out http://truthatlife.com/ or email me directly at curtis.songer@gmail.com