The Leadership Quality of Charisma (part 2 of 2)

Continued from earlier... How would you rate yourself when it comes to charisma? Are other people naturally attracted to you? Are you well liked? If not you may possess one of the following roadblocks to charisma: Pride – No one want to follow a leader who thinks he is better than everyone else. Insecurity – If you are uncomfortable with who you are, others will be too. Moodiness – If people never know what to expect from you, they stop expecting anything. Perfectionism – People respect the desire for excellence, dread totally unrealistic expectations. Cynicism – People don’t want to be rained on by someone who sees a cloud around every silver lining. If you can stay away from these qualities, you can cultivate charisma. Pearle Mesta, the greatest Washington hostess since Dolly Madison, was asked the secret of her success in getting so many rich and famous people to attend her parties. “It’s all about the greetings and the good-byes, “ she replied. When a guest arrived, she met him, saying, “At last you’re here!” and as each left, she said, “I’m sorry you have to leave so soon!” Her agenda was to focus on others, not herself. That’s charisma. Here are some tips for getting started on the path for a more charismatic life: • Change your focus. Observe your interaction with people during the next few days. As you talk to others, determine who much of your conversation is concentrated on yourself. Determine to tip the balance in favor of focusing on others. • Play the first impressions game. Try an experiment. The next time you meet someone for the very first time, try your best to make a good first impression. Learn the person’s name. Focus on his interests. Be positive. And most important, treat him as a “10”. If you can do this for a day, you can do it every day. And that will increase your charisma overnight. • Share yourself. Make it your long-term goal to share your resources with others. Think about how you can add value to five people in your life this year. They can be family members, colleagues, employees, or friends. Provide resources to help them grow personally and professionally, and share your personal journey with them. Truth@Life can help you, regardless of your location. Call 248-396-6255 or email me at curtis.songer@gmail.com for a free consultation. If you receive value from these blogs, please consider donating to keep this blog site up and running. This ministry cannot continue without the generous donations of its readers. Just click on the "Donate" button in the upper right. For more info on help I can provide check out http://truthatlife.com/ or email me directly at curtis.songer@gmail.com